A continuation of this post….

It was definitely helpful. So you said you had sexual experiences with both man and woman when you were around 16? And this helped you decide?

Because I’m 18, and I haven’t had any sexual experiences yet. It’s  not that I don’t want to have sex, it’s just that I haven’t found a mature guy that I like (I’m sure you remember high school guys). I feel strongly, however, about knowing myself in the sexual sense (i.e. what pleases me, what my limits are-if any) very well. Even though I’m not sexual active yet, I think I have this. And I’ve felt attracted to women and to men (more men than women so far), but it’s hard to say if I am bi or not because I haven’t had sex with either. 

If you don’t mind me asking, what were your first sexual encounters like with both sexes?

Again, what you said was very helpful. I think I’m going to take your advice and keep admiring the female form and celebrating its beauty. I admire your art a lot, and it’s inspired me.

Thanks again!

Yes, by the age of 16 I had experimented in one way or another with both sexes which led me to examine and discover my sexuality. I don’t think I really became 100% confident in my sexuality till over a year ago, I was coming off a two day coke bender and I became convinced I was lesbian and my family was going to disown me[so not true]. I went to rehab three days later and got clean. When asked if I was gay or straight during intake, I stared blankly and said I didn’t like to label myself. My counselor told that was fine and I realized it was. Having a sane and sober mind allowed me to reevaluate a lot of things in my life including my sexuality.
I am bi-sexual. I am attracted to both sexes. It’s that simple. And I suppose that complicated as well.
Although you’ve yet to have any sexual experiences with a partner I think you are capable of knowing your sexuality. But only you know what that is.

As for my first sexual experiences….wow, I actually had to think hard about this. I had my first kiss with a boy at twelve and when I was fourteen I gave my first hand job. My boyfriend didn’t really want it, he wanted to take things slow but I did my thing and he didn’t stop me. My first sexual experiance with those of the female persuasion was at a sleepover when I was thirteen. We were playing truth or dare, doing things like french-kissing, flashing, even groping each others breasts. It was then that it dawned on me that I was sexually attracted to women. These silly dares turned me on and felt more like foreplay than a childish game.

xoxo Sinead